I Look at You

Every morning, I sit across from you, staring at the doughnut crumbs clinging to the corners of your lips. Or stuck to your chin. Or pasted to your blue tie (it’s always a blue tie!)

I wonder why your parents didn’t teach you proper use of a napkin. Or personal hygiene. For it’s not just the crumbs, but the shiny hair (what’s left of it), that stinks up the small meeting room. (I can smell you from here!)

And the moldy smell of damp clothes left to rot in the washing machine for days on end.

Fortunately, I can look out the window behind your back, something I do in order to avoid your moonstruck eyes as you stare at me, a woman old enough to be your grandmother.

There’s nothing appealing about you. Nothing that would entice me to spend time with you outside of the daily meeting. Nothing that would inspire me to sit next to you during lunch or walk down the hall with you as we return to our various cubicles.

I stare out the window, entranced by the clouds like matted white fur that race by. They remind me of the stray cat that wandered into my garage too many years ago to count. The poor thing looked like an alien: it’s luminescent green eyes summoned images of space invaders staring into human residences.

I’d scooped it up in a towel and carried it inside the house. Using a damp cloth I’d removed some of the filth- but then the cat wriggled away before the job was complete.

A trip to the vet helped. The technician sprayed the cat with something…not sure what…and then combed and combed and combed.

After an examination, I learned that it was female. Fluffy seemed like an appropriate name. Now that she was clean, she was a ball of white fur.

The boss says something that draws me back to the meeting. Something about reports and accounting mistakes that I care nothing about. You guffaw even though no one else does. I look, because it’s too compelling not to, to discover that you’ve got white fur clinging to your black suit jacket.

I know you’ve got a dog, because you’ve bored us all with too many photos of the thing. It’s a miniature something. One of those long-haired things with four-inch legs and eyes buried beneath layer upon layer of fur. Rover. That’s its name. Weird choice since there’s nothing roverish about it.

I tried to like you after seeing how much you cared about the dog. After all, a huge, burly man cuddling a tiny dog does something to the heart. But I can’t get past the daily crumbs and the filthy hair and the disgusting smell.

I sit here, across from you. day after day, assaulted by your stench.

Stones

I bent over to pick up a small, pink stone

It glittered in the early morning sun,

Speaking a sunrises and sunsets,

 A baby’s scalp after a bath

The underbelly of my cat.

I slipped it into my jacket pocket

It’s weight negligible

At the crest of a hill a striated rock caught my attention.

The dark lines, close to the purple of my bedspread,

Seemed darkly ominous

But I didn’t know why.

A stone cannot harm me unless tossed in my face.

It bears no ill-will and harbors no grudges.

Yet if frightened me so much so that I hurried away.

At the bottom of a lake a cluster of green stones called my name.

They were quite lovely, speaking of life and growth and wealth

And health and all things good.

I yearned to take just one.

But if I did, would the pile change?

Would it no longer speak to the next passerby?

I sat on a fallen log, weighing whether or not to slip

The smallest one into my pocket.

Until a scrub jay warned me.

At the top of the mountain, I crossed a plane

Of striated rocks.

What caused the unusual markings?

Fire? Rain? Snow? Glaciers?

Perhaps all four.

I had to touch the smooth surface,

Wanting to know, to understand,

How they came to be.

I closed my eyes, raised my head toward the sky

And listened.

For what I did not know.

I stood there for what seemed like a long time.

When no voice filled my ears, I shook off the feeling

Of foreboding that had come over me.

These rocks, this hill, offered only a sense of

Ill will.

I shouldered my pack and retraced my steps.

Just as I closed my car door, lightning lit up the sky

And thunder roared all around me

As I rubbed the two little stones

Nestled in the warmth of my coat.

Roses

My mother loved roses

It made no difference the color or the heritage

Whether they climbed or grew in a bush

She carefully tended each plant

As if it was a child, a baby

Needing nurturing to grow.

She’d buy several new plants each season

Dig the holes and line them with mulch

The roots would be unbound, then settled.

I wanted to be her rose

To be carefully tended

Nurtured, like the child I once was

I didn’t need her to buy me anything

But I yearned for her to create places

For me to learn, love and grow

I wanted her love

Needed her love

And cried when she didn’t deliver.

Deep Within

Somewhere, hiding in my bones,

My blood vessels.

My heart, my guts

Is the real me.

Am I a beast struggling to escape?

A gentle giant yearning for peace?

An artist creating her own world?

Or a minuscule creature, hiding?

I hear a prayer

When the wind blows,

The birds sing

Children laugh

He answers in a touch of wind

A brush against my arm

The kiss of my husband

And the joys of friendship

Deep within lies my secrets

My hopes and dreams,

For even as I grow old,

I live for another day.

Our Life Stories

all of life is a series of

nonstories

the might-have-beens

the almost becames

the things we dreamt of

doing

but never did

the wishes unfulfilled

presents never delivered

or received

places never visited

near-misses

chance occurrences

that developed into nothing

the left-behinds

and

soon-to-be forgottens

all stories untold

mysteries locked

romances closeted

things never experienced

foods never tasted

but secretly yearned for

nonstories frozen in place

and time

with no characters to lament

plots stagnant

themes dragging behind

do we obsess

over the lost stories

and live life in a

vacuum?

NO

we constantly create

our personal life stories

our dreams springing to

a life lived luxuriously

laughing joyously

over the endless

possibilities

Falling in Love

            Our beloved dog had recently passed. The house felt lonely without four paws running around the dining room. The kids begged for another dog, so when a good friend was in searching for a dog, I rode along.

             We visited many shelters in the local area. She found a rottweiler that interested her. Nothing sparked my interest until we saw a female with three tiny puppies, brown, black and white. She said they were Border Collie mixed with something that gave them curled tails.

            We put in a request for the one brown one. I didn’t really want a male, disliking the way they have to pee on everything, but there was something about this tiny puppy that tore at my heartstrings.

            The pound confirmed that we were first on the list, so most likely we’d get the dog.

            My kids were so excited, that we returned to the pound, day after day, to sit outside the cage. We decided to name him MacTavish.

            Because the puppies had yet to be weaned, we had to wait and wait. We were also told their history. A neighbor had phoned in, complaining about whining coming from the house next door. The officers discovered that the house was empty, but they could see moving shadows inside.

            Police knocked down the door.

            The female (yes, the proper term in bitch, but it sounds offensive to me) was tied to a banister. At her feet were five tiny puppies. The SPCA didn’t know there were puppies as all they saw were moving mounds, collapsed on the floor.

            Yes, they were covered in fleas! So dense that no visible signs of life could be seen.

            One of the pups was dead, the others barely clinging to life since the female was unable to nurse them due to a lack of food and water.

            The Animal Officers fed the mom, gave her water, then relocated them all to the shelter.

            It isn’t recommended to use flea treatment on such young dogs, but there was no other safe way to rid them of the pests.

            Another pup had died before we arrived. Three were walking, but weakly.

            None could be adopted until they were stronger.

            Meanwhile we bought toys and constructed a small fenced-in area in the backyard.

            When we finally brought Mac home, we were excited, but at the same time nervous as neither my husband nor I had ever held such a tiny pup.

            Mac couldn’t walk. His legs gave out, not due to disability, but due to being malnourished. We gave him puppy food, but he couldn’t eat it. Or maybe he refused, but the outcome was the same.

            My friend came to the rescue! She had me buy oatmeal, honey, and other things to construct a watery gruel. She sent me to the dentist to beg for syringes. (They didn’t want to give them to me at first. Once I explained what they were for, they gave me several.)

            Time worked miracles. And prayer. And lots of attention. Mac grew stronger, but not bigger. His body needed to recover before his legs could get longer.

            Mac lived a good, long life. He wasn’t the smartest dog we’d had, but perhaps the most fun. Shouting “squirrel” had him begging to get outside. He’d charge the plum tree, barking all the way. The squirrels would move just out of his reach and chitter at him until Mac gave up.

            My husband built a shed at the far end of the yard. He’d call, “To the shed,” and Mac would bound, like an antelope, to the shed door. He’d wait for my husband to arrive, tail wagging, eyes bright.

            Like many Border Collies, he was quirky. Normally we’d feed our dogs in the kitchen, on a special mat. That wasn’t okay with Mac. Sometimes he’d want to eat by the sliding glass door. Sometimes in front of the stove or the birdcage.

            I’d carry his bowl around the house, setting it down in different places until I found the right one.

            We tried obedience training with him. He got kicked out when he refused to stay until called.

            He didn’t understand how walking on a leash worked until I got a choke chain. I didn’t like using it, but it taught him to stay calm and walk by my side. Eventually I was able to use a soft collar and harness.

            Mac thought he was a tiny dog. Despite growing to over forty pounds, in his mind he was a lapdog. It was hilarious. With Mac in my lap, I couldn’t see the TV.

            We used to let him sleep in the garage, with the side door open. That worked fine during the day when we were at work and at school, but not at night.

            When the moon was full, Mac howled and howled. I’d lock him in the garage. Then he discovered that he could move the fence boards, allowing him to escape. I’d find him sleeping on the front porch in the morning.

            My husband and I nailed boards in place, one after another as Mac found new boards to move. When he had no way to escape, Mac chewed the boards until he’d made holed big enough to pass through.

            I worried about splinters in his mouth. I couldn’t sleep. I’d stay awake, listening for sounds of chewing. In the morning, I couldn’t function, made errors at work, got sleepy teaching my classes.

            We locked him in the garage at night. I kept him safe, allowed me to sleep.

            My husband retired when Mac still had enough energy to bound into the backyard. They became best buddies. Everywhere my husband went, Mac was with him. Until his muzzle turned gray and his joints ached.

            When it hurt so bad that Mac struggled to potty outside, we made the difficult decision to end his life. Neither of us could watch an animal suffer just to please ourselves.

            Saying goodbye was one of the hardest things I’d done. There’d been other dogs, other cats, but none of them bonded with us like Mac had.

            It’s been many year since Mac was alive, but he lives on in our hearts and minds.

              Radiant Vision

The sun arose and filled my eyes

With heavenly glory personified

Tears down my face did solemnly pour

I stood transfixed, and begged for more

Golden rays lit up the new morn sky

With brilliant spectacle for the eye

With mouth agape I did profoundly stare

And wonder what God’s doing up there

To me He gave such wondrous gift

That my poor spirit felt tremendous lift

To my knees I should have promptly fallen

But I could not move despite hearing Him callin’

Frozen in place with feet on the soil

I praised the Lord’s amazing toil

For humankind: to free our souls

From worries: to give us lofty goals

Reaching deeply into my empty purse

I feared God’s wrath, or maybe worse

Instead my heart did nearly burst

With joy: I knew I was not cursed

The sun arose and filled my eyes

With heavenly glory personified

Help from on High

            The only prayer I knew before first grade was; “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take.”

            Pretty dismal. Imagine being three or four and thinking about dying in bed. I was terrified to close my eyes and drift off, certain that I’d be dead before sunrise. In my mind, God was not a friend and not someone I wanted in my life.

            To enroll my brother in the Catholic elementary in Dayton, Ohio, we had to prove that we attended Mass and gave money to the church. We drove into town, sat through a boring service conducted in Latin, a language I didn’t know, then hurried home to watch football or bowling.

            The next year I enrolled in the same school. Now my days began with prayer, ended with prayer, included instruction in religion, and had prayer time all day long. Lots of praise God and Alleluia. Threats of eternal damnation and black spots on your soul. Displeasing God so badly that he’d turn his back on us.

            At home I had to get on my knees every night and pray next to my brother. I’d learned new prayers: Our Father and Hail Mary. At least now I didn’t go to bed thinking about my death. But I had new things to worry about.

            Did I talk back to my mother? Did I have awful thoughts about my brother or sister? Did I hate my teacher? Classmates? Did I waste food that could feed kids in China?

            God took, terrified me, and shook His finger. He offered nothing positive. No hope. No escape from my dysfunctional family.

            While part of me didn’t believe God cared about me, I prayed to Him anyway. I prayed for relief from the constant torment from my siblings, from the anger directed toward me from both parents, from the overwhelming sense of despair that surrounded me.

            Even as young as eight, I hoped, prayed, that God would lift me out of my living situation and drop me into a happier one. By twelve I was planning on running away. By fourteen, when we moved to California, I studied so as to go to college, another escape. In fact, it was the only way out, other than marriage, something I was opposed to given the poor relationship between my parents.

            Considering years of prayer, with little change, I thought about giving up. Why pray if no one was listening? It seemed like a fruitless activity.

            But when things worsen, when life becomes unbearable, you must do something. I was too young to move out plus I had no means of supporting myself. No relatives lived nearby, so I couldn’t change residences. The one hope; having good enough grades to earn a scholarship.

I prayed constantly. In between classes? A prayer. Eating lunch? Pray. Riding the school bus? Another opportunity to pray.

I refused to give up, to think that God had abandoned me when I hadn’t done anything seriously wrong.

Toward the end my junior year of high school, a letter came addressed to me. I was a recipient of a scholarship from the State of California! It could be applied to any college, whether public or private. I had done my research and knew what colleges were at the top of my list.

San Francisco State University and College of the Redwoods had excellent teacher education programs. SF State was also strong in math, my top subject. My parents wouldn’t let me go to either. They laughed at the idea of me being a teacher. Good, old, shy me. The girl who could sit among others and say nothing.

I prayed.

I applied to the University of Southern California, in the math department. I got accepted! My scholarship would cover the tuition. I borrowed to pay room and board.

It wasn’t at the top of my list, but because my brother has been accepted there, my parents let me go, only after telling him to keep an eye on me.

I thanked God.

While at college, I was walking back to my dorm when I heard this amazing music coming from a one-story white brick building. I stuck my head in, to discover Mass with drums, guitar, tambourine, and folk music that I knew and loved.

That discovery led me back to God. Not the fire and brimstone version in my younger life, but a God who loved me and cared for me. I went on a retreat with the Neumann Center. When I got off the bus somewhere in the mountains, and smelled the pine needles, walked among the debris on the forest floor, touched the bark of a redwood and looked up, up, up so high that it hurt my neck, I knew there was a god.

That experience changed me. Things still went wrong when I had to go home. After all, my parents were the same, my siblings were the same, so why would I expect something new?

I’d like to think I grew a spine, thanks to Divine Intervention. God infused my soul with grit. He empowered me to take risks, to stand up for myself. To create goals that I wanted to accomplish and strive toward them.

That was fifty-four years ago. God is still in my life. I believe He watches over me, helps me make decisions and guides me in many, many ways.

Sometimes we need a little help.

Just for the Picking

Ten thousand wishes float into the air

Brightly lit rainbow dots drift without care

Air-filled hopes slowly rise into the sky

Waiting for the moment to multiply

Realistic fantasies within reach

Specifically crafted for us each

Inside, a single dream lurks unfulfilled

Waits for perfect heart in which to be spilled

Dandified dreams as mystic butterflies

Burst in multicolored hues ‘ere our eyes

Windswept images of forgotten faces

Mist-enshrouded thought of faraway places

Everyday troubles weathered away

Lucky lazy bubbles brighten the way

Worlds of wonder wrapped in shiny white

Drawn down to earth by fragile string of kite

Electric energy for those who dare

Ten thousand wishes rise into the air.

Walking in the Snow

            I was born in Dayton, Ohio. Our first residence was a tiny house that was once owned by Wright-Patterson Air Force Base. Looking back at old photos, I now realize we lived in the “projects.” Every house looked the same. They marched down the street, like soldiers.

            We did have running water and electricity, but the only washing machine was an old-fashioned wringer type. I had to catch the clothes as they emerged, with a caution that I’d lose my hands if I wasn’t careful.

            I was an imaginative child. Every night, I dreamt of a hand being smashed between those rollers.

            Our next house was in a nicer neighborhood. It was two-story, with the upstairs unfinished. At some point my mom let me move upstairs, probably to get away from my younger sister.

            My brother and I often played outside in the snow. We weren’t allowed out of our yard, so our activities were reduced to building snowmen and throwing snowballs.

            Just before my fourth-grade year of school, we moved to Beavercreek, Ohio. It was a large subdivision bordering a forest owned by the Air Force. Nothing could be built there as it was part of the runway.

            The upper part of the subdivision was fairly flat. As the streets headed south and east, hills came into play. Our house sat on one of those hills. The house to our north sat a tad higher than ours, while the one on the south was a bit lower.

            No fences on any of our properties.

            Ohio can be incredibly cold and snowy. One winter it snowed so much that it came up to my ten-year-old knees. Often after a snow, it warms slightly, then chills at night, turning everything to ice.

            My brother got the idea to build an igloo. We thought we knew how to build one as we’d read many stories about indigenous peoples. I wasn’t allowed to use the saw, so he did all the cutting. I was the porter and the builder. He cut a block of ice; I carried it to the site and layered one block on top of another.

            When the wall was too high, he had to finish off the igloo.

            Somehow, we succeeded! There was a hole as a door. The walls curved inward, creating a dome at the top.

            Crawling in was fun, except for when the ice melted. Then our mittens and knees of our pants got soaked. Once inside, though, it was surprisingly warm. We’d pack lunches, crawl through, and no matter the temperature outside, eat in comfort.

            I’d just learned how to read thanks to a children’s librarian who showed me a collection of easy-to-read nonfiction books on Indigenous people. My mom insisted her great-great-great grandmother was “Native.” She claimed her tan skin was evidence, as well as her love of bread and gardening.

            I wanted to know more about that relative, and so read every book the library had. When it wasn’t too cold, I’d take a book into the igloo and spend precious time reading. Alone. Out of the maelstrom of my life.

            The following winter very little snow fell, but thanks to freezing nighttime temperatures, there was plenty of ice.

            My brother and I would pull our sled uphill into the neighbor’s yard. With a good running start, and a timely jump, we’d fly down that hill, sail across our yard, downhill into the next, ending midway into that neighbor’s yard.

            It was great fun. We also never got hurt.

            On our last winter in Beavercreek before moving to California, once again, little snow fell. It was cold, though, so cold that huge icicles hung from our gutters and every powerline. The combined weight of icicles pulled the powerlines down, down, down. We lost electricity several times, the popping and snapping terrifying me. It was not until crews came out and removed the ice that our electricity was returned.

            The wind was fierce. It howled like a banshee, a truly scary sound. We’d huddle inside, not daring to go out in that storm. When morning came, we went outside to discover roof-high piles of snow on the north side of our house.

            Huge icicles hung everywhere. When the sun lit them up, the sparkling light amazed me.

            We broke off the tips from some, licking them as if they were popsicles. They were flavorless, but in our minds, they were as good as the best thing we’d ever had.

            Those were good memories. While I think fondly back on those times, I am grateful to live in the San Francisco Bay Area where it never snows.